Of intimate enemies

Stereotypical images of women, young and old, dressed in traditional clothes, a pot held against her waist, and one or two balanced on the head, have long essentialised the life of rural women in India. The wells in Indian villages, sometimes picturesque, sometimes nondescript, have not just been a place for fetching water. Everything from great friendships and the latest village scandals to unjust caste relations that determine water usage unfolds around the well.

Ironically, the same life-sustaining well also provides an escape to many women suffering in their in-laws' homes. In the song below even the well, the only companion of the woman — now unhappily married into a family not of her choice — has turned against her. She has no one left to complain to about the men in her family who married her off into what seems like an enemy household.

Gloomy songs like this one here, rendered by Shankar Barot of Anjar, where the woman complains about the hostile men in her family, have their own place among the diverse songs sung during different ceremonies at a wedding.