Sita’s songs of love, exile and sorrow

In these 13 grindmill songs full of vivid word pictures, two singers from Shirur taluka, Pune, sing of Sita’s exile in the forest and the sorrow of losing loved ones

Sonubai sings of Sita’s exile as she leaves for the forest, her forehead smeared with kunku. A blameless woman, Sita is left to stay in the forest – with all the physical and moral hardships that the desertion, loss of love, and solitude carry with them. Ram watches her leave with tears in his eyes, and the narrator blames the sinful Ravan for Sita’s sorrows.

Left alone in the forest, Sita lives in a tent made out of her saree and sleeps on the ground, with nothing but a stone for a pillow. It is the the bori (jujube) and babhali (acacia) trees, her companions who console her. These thorny trees with fissured barks typically grow at the edges of forests, and rural women use them in their songs to represent the barbed, unequal status of women in society, a challenge they too regularly deal with.

“Sita’s sorrows have not ended with the Ramayana,” said C. Rajagopalachari in the epilogue to his retelling of the epic. “They go on, still, in the lives of our women.” Even after the fire-ordeal to prove her chastity to the world, Sita was sent to the forest, mirroring, what he says is, “the voiceless and endless suffering of our womenfolk.”

According to the Ramayana, during their 14-year exile, Sita, Ram and his brother Laxman make their home in the forest at Panchavati, which is believed to be located in present-day Nashik in Maharashtra. It was the same forest, the singers imagine, where Sita was in solitary exile, described in the Ramayana’s Uttarakanda section. They narrate that the mother Sita sings a lullaby for her twin sons Lahu and Ankus, who are “the clever boys of Panchavati.

In the last three couplets, on devotion and affection towards the sons of Sita and Ram, the singers tell us that the two young boys have an afternoon bath at the Ramkund, a holy spot in River Godavari. Some Hindu devotees believe that Ram bathed there during his exile from Ayodhya with Sita and Laxman.

Through these 13 ovi, Ratnabai Padwal and Sonubai Mote, question the behaviour of the most ideal of mythological men, Lord Ram, even as they worship him. By also showing the sorrow and love of Sulochana, and not only of Sita, the singers compel us to look at the epics, and life, from the point of view of women from both sides of warring nations.

Ram, I say, Ram is like a talisman around my neck
people don’t know that I wear it on my neck

Ram is with me, he is good company
He has built a bungalow in my heart

Ram is like the comfort of a piece of areca nut
I take his name, and I relax, my soul is at peace

Ram is sweating, Sita wipes [his forehead] with the end of her saree
“Who cast an evil eye?” She asks, as the chariot goes through the bazaar

Ram is sweating, Sita wipes [his forehead] promptly
“Who cast an evil eye on you, my Ramraya?”

* * *

Indrajit was killed, his head has fallen in the courtyard
The virtuous Sulochana, disbelieving, asks for it in writing

Sita is leaving for her exile in the forest, her forehead smeared with kunku
Rama watched her from a distance, his eyes were filled with tears

Sita is going for her exile in the forest, a cow crossed her
O this long exile is because of the sinful Ravan

In such a forest, who is weeping? Listen!
Bori-babhali [jujube and acacia trees] are
the women who listen to and console Sita

In such a forest, who sings a lullaby?
Sita says, “Lahu and Ankus are sleeping”

In such a forest, Sita, how could you sleep?
Laying your head on a stone for a pillow

In this whole forest, what appears so red
Sitabai made a tent from a saree

*  *  *

Who was offered gulal near Ramkund?
The clever children [Lahu and Ankus] from Panchavati come for bath

Who has offered areca nut near Ramkund?
Lahu and Ankus come for their bath in the afternoon

There is a pair of wet folded dhotar near Ramkund
The twins Lahu and Ankus are coming for their bath

Performer/Singer: Ratnabai Padwal

Village: Savindane

Taluka: Shirur

District: Pune

Occupation: Farmer and homemaker

Caste: Maratha

Date: These songs were first recorded on December 13, 1995

Poster: Urja

Read about the original Grindmill Songs Project founded by Hema Rairkar and Guy Poitevin.